Pure Dutch

May 19, 2016
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Dik van der Velden was Pure Dutch – and also a one-of-kind friend.  Upon hearing that Dik had passed away, I was left in a state of deep reflection on the 30 or so years we have known one other.  They sure went by fast.

If you look up the term “Dutch Trader” in the dictionary, you’ll find Dik’s picture.  He was the consummate trader: informed, smart, quick-witted, tough and nimble.  I’d swear that those traits were hard-coded into his DNA.  He built one of the largest and most successful flower trading companies in the World based in Aalsmeer, The Netherlands, just outside Amsterdam; it was something to behold.

But Dik was so much more than that business profile; he was also caring, family-oriented and incredibly human.  It took quite awhile to get to know him at that level, but those were the qualities that made him truly special.  Over time, our children also became connected with one another as extended family.  That sort of thing doesn’t happen very often in the hustle and bustle of today, especially when an ocean separates you.

On the business front, I learned the most valuable lessons of all from my dealings with Dik over a span of 15 years:

  1. “What I think, it does not matter. It is only what my clients think that matters.” (Dik spoke these exact words, time and again to me through the years; I’ve learned them and know them to be true.)
  2. If it’s wrong, then fix it. Don’t wait for your client to tell you what to do.
  3. Have the courage of your convictions.  If you believe in it, you’d better be able to explain it.
  4. Do serious business, but don’t ever take it too seriously. Opportunities come and go, just like problems.
  5. Be willing to try something new. Whether it turns into great business or not, you’ll surely learn something from the experience.
​In recent years, I’ve missed the weekly interaction I experienced with Dik for so long, but whenever we spoke we picked up right where we left off.  The connection had been forged and we understood one another professionally and personally.  I regard his youngest daughter, who lived with my family for a span of months on a couple of occasions years ago, as partly my own.  She remains a vibrant connection to Dik that will keep his memory alive.

The sum of a life is not the business transacted, but rather the people transformed in the process.  People like Dik make this journey both memorable and enjoyable. 

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7 Comments

  • Bill – I’m very sorry to hear of Dik’s passing. Although I never met him, I’ve heard about him through you over the last eleven and a half years. I’ve heard lesson #1 numerous times from you. It is so simple, but so true and important to understand. Sorry for your loss.

  • Lisa Hall

    9 years ago

    Bill,
    What a beautiful testimony for a dear friend and business associate. A life well lived and so many treasured lessons shared. Our life is not measured by what we have achieved but by what we share along the way. Thank you for sharing the lessons you learned from Dik, great words to live by.

  • Kellie

    9 years ago

    Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. He sounded like a very wise man with a lot to offer.

  • Jason Johnson

    9 years ago

    Bill, I was truly touched reading the post about your friend, friendship and lessons I am sure you both taught each other.
    Being somewhat dutch myself, I was reminded of a Dutch saying:
    Wie niet met mij is, die is tegen mij.
    Translated literally it means, He who is not with me is against me.
    But in Dutch it means:
    Friends are those who believe in us and who want to help us whatever it is that we are trying to achieve.
    Thank you again for sharing.

  • Thanks Bill beautifull article and so true. Truly touched! Love Lia

  • Brian Wester

    9 years ago

    Bill-
    Sorry for your loss. I feel like I have known Dik from hearing your stories over the years and thanks for sharing! He clearly understood how to create a successful business but more importantly how to build lasting relationships!

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